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I think many women have false hope that plastic surgery could save their marriage. But are women having plastic surgery to keep their man or are they doing it for themselves? You could however find yourself struggling to heal your broken heart, no matter what your intentions are.

Cori was the original one of my friends to get plastic surgery. Even though they have been married for 16 years, due to the shaky relationship they had a trial separation earlier this year. When their kids began to act up at school and act out at home they decided to give their marriage another chance. Since both of them had had affairs there was a lot to work through. Cori’s husband, Will, was over compensating to try and bring the excitement back into their relationship and Cori was always measuring herself up to the woman her husband had the affair with.

They both came to the conclusion as they were trying to work through their problems that plastic surgery would help. Cori wanted to feel self-confident about her body and Will was hoping this new self-confidence would bring that spice back into their relationship. They decided that Cori would get breast implants as this was the one thing on her body that she was not happy with.

She told me that she actually had to wrestle her husband off after the surgery and she loved it! She was fairly certain that it saved their marriage and that it was the best choice they had ever made.

Regrettably, this is not always the case, some men are frightened of their women receiving plastic surgery. There is this man from Alberta who’s wife wants breast implants, liposuction and a tummy tuck even though he says he loves her exactly as she is. He fears that with this new body, she will run off and have an affair, when all she really wants is the body she had before they had children. Is it really necessary for him to have these fears?

To make themselves more confident about their bodies, a good number women get plastic surgery. If their current relationship is not working then the surgery could give them the confidence they need to leave it. But if the relationship is solid any surgery shouldn’t have any negative effects.

A husband inquired if she would ever consider having breast implant confessed another woman. After having two kids, her breasts weren’t as bouncy but she thought he still loved her C cups. She immediately began to feel self-conscious about them and decided to get surgery done to please him because she thought that is what he wanted. Even though it was quite a naive comment it planted an ugly seed into her head.

She thought she looked like a clown as she felt her slim build looked like a pencil with two huge balloons on it. As such the surgery made her feel depressed. While her husband told her she looked gorgeous, she became more and more insecure. Finally, with her husband’s full support; she decided to have the surgery reversed and a breast lift done instead. She claimed for the first time in a long time she feels like herself again and her husband was just happy to have her back.

Most research states that plastic surgery often does not help if a relationship is already having problems, has a history of problems, or if you are getting the surgery to please someone else. The underlying problems are still there and the surgery is only a temporary solution. Before considering surgery, those problems need to be dealt with before or the relationship won’t survive anyway.

Cori experienced precisely this. Six months after her breast surgery her marriage began to have problems again. While her new body and confidence had been a great distraction for six months, the same old problems and patterns began to surface and they were back where they had started – separated. Even though she is heart broken that they couldn’t work it out she claims she doesn’t regret her surgery because she did it for herself as well as her husband. She is certain that her heart will mend as she says she feels much better about herself.

Plastic surgery can have many positive affects if done for the right reasons and not to act as a “band-aid” to save your marriage. After all it’s quite normal to want to have your body back after having children, or change something you’ve always wanted to change, or just to fight aging. You should not be doing to please someone else, you have to be doing it because you want it no matter what. You may find yourself trying to heal your broken heart as a result if you are trying to save your marriage with plastic surgery.

Ever got the feeling you were about to be dumped by your boyfriend? Unexpectedly you are getting this impression that he just doesn’t want to be near you nor is he being very caring or loving. Before you must mend your broken heart, can you mend your relationship? Think about what you can do to change if you do any of the things below.

1. Are you too clingy?
Do you find yourself clutching your man every time you are with him? While he is not with you are you continually calling or texting him? Do you whine when he goes out with his friends?

You will ultimately push him away if you do any of the above. He’s going to call and see you as frequently as he can at the start of the relationship when you are both on your best behavior. As the honeymoon stage is not eternal, his calls and visits will become shorter and fewer and far between. At this point the majority of women start to freak out, but it’s truly ok, he’s just getting comfortable and he still genuinely likes you. As an alternative to you calling him frequently, you will make a bigger impression by playing a little hard to get.

2. All is revealed to your friends!
You are going to become more at ease as you and your partner become closer. You may open up about stuff that you haven’t with others You also may do silly things to make each other laugh. These things are personal and should stay between to the two of you and not be shared with your friends! If you told your gal pals that he cries or that he tried on your g-string to make you laugh, can you even fathom how he would feel? Put yourself in his position – you wouldn’t want him to share your secrets with his friends, would you? Lose his trust and eventually you’ll lose him.

3. You are too high maintenance!
Do you always need reassurance on how your relationship is doing? Are you constantly analyzing every situation that comes up between the two of you? Do you question him on how you look all the time? Are compliments always being prompted for?

By continuing to this you will make him mad and your relationship will not survive long! It’s acceptable to ask him if you look fantastic prior to you go out but do not make it in to a big argument on your relationship because you over analyzed his answer. In the middle of dinner with his friends present is not an appropriate time or place to discuss you relationship, no matter how much you feel you need it. I had a friend do that once and it made everyone uncomfortable!

By making him believe that nothing pleases you, you make him feel like he can’t do anything right as you uncover mistakes with all he does. If you want to keep your man then you need to lighten up, otherwise you’ll be shopping for a new partner instead of a new dress.

You have to take a look at what you are doing that makes you feel like your man is slipping away, are you the one driving him away? Save your relationship by making an attempt to transform yourself instead of having to mend your broken heart.

You see it on TV and in the movies, girl loves boy or boy loves girl but they love someone else. One way or another, they end up living happily ever after by the end of the show. Can this fairy tale happen in real life? Is there a way to get someone to fall in love with you and heal your broken heart?

Here are 3 tips to help that special someone fall in love with you:

1. Common Interests – When people share a common pastime, they are often drawn to one another. Do you have any similar interests, find out as you get to know them. Build on any interests that you share, whether it be reading the same kinds of books or hiking. Don’t ever lie about an interest, if the person ever found out, you would be breaking their trust and could jeopardize any further relationship. Furthermore, you need to be true to yourself and do not change “who” you are just to get someone to love you.

2. Qualities – People look for people who have traits they like or think highly of when they are looking for a partner. For instance, a man who is a non-smoker, over the age of 35 and has a great sense of humor, is all my friend will date. Qualities that are attractive to the person you love, do you have any? When you investigate prior relationships, are there any like qualities shared between ex-partners? Do you share any qualities with them? There is a reason or reasons why they broke up, so be careful and don’t be just like his ex’s. That little something they were attracted to could be as simple as having the door being held open for them, holding their hand or made them feel special in some way.

3. Be a good friend – Having a friendship first I believe is a good foundation for a good relationship. It may take a long time to get the person you love but as your friendship grows; you will become a vital part in their life. You cannot stand still and wait for them but if they need you, be there for them, and be a good listener. Continue living is what you must do and as such you should try dating other people. If you look like you are just there for them at every whim you will only look pathetic. By showing them that you have a life and date other people while you wait for them, as weird as it may sound, it may make them look differently at you and they may even find you more attractive.

By the person you love not loving you back, it’s difficult and heartbreaking. However that is not the way it has to be. If these 3 tips do not work, that person may not be the one for you and you will have to know when to move on and try to heal your broken heart or just like in the movies or on TV, you too could have a fairy tale ending.

Girl loves boy or boy loves girl except they love somebody else, you witness it all the time in movies or on TV. Somehow by the end of show they are untied and live happily ever after. Can this fairy tale actually happen? Is it possible to make someone fall in love with you and mend your broken heart?

Below are 3 tips on how to facilitate that exceptional someone to fall in love with you:

1. Common Interests – When people share a common pastime, they are often drawn to one another. As you get to know each other, find out their interests and if you share any. Maybe you share the love of hiking or reading the same type of books, whatever it is you can build on that interest. Don’t ever lie about an interest, if the person ever found out, you would be breaking their trust and could jeopardize any further relationship. What’s more, you shouldn’t have transform “who” you are for someone you love as you never need to be someone you aren’t.

2. Qualities – People look for people who have traits they like or think highly of when they are looking for a partner. For example, one of my friends will only go out with men who are over 35, are non-smokers and have a sense of humor. Qualities that are attractive to the person you love, do you have any? When you investigate prior relationships, are there any like qualities shared between ex-partners? Do you have any of the qualities that they had? You have to be careful here and don’t try to be just like their past partners, after all there is a reason they broke up. That little something they were attracted to could be as simple as having the door being held open for them, holding their hand or made them feel special in some way.

3. Be a good friend – Having a friendship first I believe is a good foundation for a good relationship. It may take a long time to get the person you love but as your friendship grows; you will become a vital part in their life. You cannot stand still and wait for them but if they need you, be there for them, and be a good listener. You have to continue living and try dating other people. Looking like you are always just being there for them at every whim you will only make yourself look pathetic. It may make them look differently at you, they may even find you more attractive and it may sound weird but to date other people while you wait for them show them that you have a life.

By the person you love not loving you back, it’s difficult and heartbreaking. That’s not the way is has to be. You could have a fairy tale ending just like on TV or in the movies, but if these 3 tips don’t work, that person may not be the one for you and you will have to know when to move on and try to mend your broken heart.