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We can find happiness right in our own home, our workplace, in school, in the company of our friends, etc. It is up to us to find the ways and means to achieve that happiness each of us seek and long for. However, it is important to recognize that there is no one absolute way to a href=http://www.findthewaytohappiness.com/tag/how-to-be-happy/ target=’_blank’find happiness/a. People have different ideas with regard to the ways of achieving happiness.brbrThe following classifications are perceived by many people as sources of happiness:brbr(1) Family and friendsbr(2) Wealthbr(3) Position/Rankbr(4) Educational Achievementbr(5) Fame (i.e. politics, arts, sports)brbr(1) HAPPINESS IN FAMILY AND FRIENDSbrbrThe very first place where happiness dwells is right in our own homes. We find happiness just by being with our family ndash; our parents, spouse, children and grandchildren. In fact, they are our source of strength and inspiration. Having a harmonious home life gives us happiness ndash; one that we truly cherish and treasure. brbrTrue friends are also a source of happiness. The support we get from them goes a long way in helping us to get by in times of troubles. Somehow, friends complete our life.brbr2) HAPPINESS IN WEALTHbrbrA lot of people associate wealth with happiness. Almost everywhere in the world, people are preoccupied in the acquisition of wealth. They see wealth as the a href=http://www.findthewaytohappiness.com/tag/how-to-be-happy/ target=’_blank’secret to happiness/a. To some, wealth and happiness are synonymous.brbrNot that we should despise the rich and the famous or discourage others from aspiring to be so. There is nothing wrong with dreaming of becoming rich just as long as we acknowledge that wealth has limitations. Furthermore, our priorities must be clear from the very start. Clearly, we must know what should rank first in order of priorities lest we spend our days in this world meaninglessly and without hope. The pursuit of material riches should not be our top priority. How many times have we heard of people with millions of money but are willing to give it away just to have peace of mind? They live in a state of fear, that is, fear of losing their wealth through robbery or theft. They also fear for their life and the lives of those they love. These fears may even lead to sleepless nights, stress, tension, mental anguish, heart attack and death. brbrUnderstanding and accepting that happiness has nothing to do with the accumulation of wealth is perhaps the most liberating realization we can ever come to. brbr3) HAPPINESS IN RANK AND POSITION Can we achieve real happiness through the attainment of high rank or position in society?brbrTo many, the answer is ldquo;yes.rdquo; For most people, having a high-ranking position is synonymous to power. Such persons would have the power to rule and lead. If they become ldquo;good leaders,rdquo; they would be able to lead based on sound moral values and good work ethics. In return, they would earn their peoplersquo;s trust, obedience, support, loyalty and cooperation. Eventually, they would find happiness and satisfaction doing their job.brbrHowever, any person who is entrusted with authority and abuses it would definitely be responsible for misuse of power. His position would only be a source of misery, as he will be confronted with issues such as corruption and problems like loss of public trust, public revolt, coups drsquo;etat, etc. brbrHistory can speak for itself. How many unwanted rulers, kings, emperors, and presidents have been overthrown? A good example is former Philippine President Ferdinand Marcos, who ruled the country for 20 long years, but his reign came to an unfortunate end. He was ldquo;thrownrdquo; out of his own country by his own people and spent years thereafter in exile.brbr4) EDUCATIONAL ACHIEVEMENTSbrbrCan earning the highest level of education such as doctorate degrees give happiness? For people who derive happiness from learning, knowledge is power. Some successful people have attained high levels of education. brbrHowever, we hear about professional people who are successful in their own fields and yet feel miserable and depressed because they feel that something is missing in their life. We hear of doctors being sued for malpractice and negligence, of judges committing suicide, and of many other sad stories that are hard to believe but are actually happening to professional people. Does education really guarantee happiness? brbr5) HAPPINESS IN FAMEbrbrFame is also associated with happiness. In sports and various careers, it is translated to victory, winning, and attaining the status of a celebrity. Are famous men and women happy? brbrLetrsquo;s take the case of sportsmen. They practically devote their whole lifetime practicing to be the best at their chosen sport. However, sports can be so stressful, especially when they are brought to the extreme. Imagine the kind of pressure sportsmen have to go through to win over a game. To cope with high expectations, they take prohibited drugs to have the stamina and endurance required in their chosen field! brbrConsider the despair, embarrassment, shame, and ridicule that they have to endure whenever they lose a game! So, let us ask ourselves ndash; can a life exposed to such pressures and humiliation be a truly happy life? brbrFor many, the future is bleak. The continuing escalation of prices, natural and man-made calamities, terrorism, local and global strife, family problems, poverty, criminality, famines and other crises do bring desperation and hopelessness. brbrCan we still find happiness in such a depressing situation? Yes, it is still possible to find happiness in such dire predicaments! What happens around us is largely beyond our control, but the way we choose to react is within our control. In short, even with all the difficulties in life, we can still make happiness happen; that is, if we want and choose to make it happen. True enough, life is what we make it! Isnrsquo;t this a wonderful discovery?brbrobject width=480 height=385param name=movie value=http://www.youtube.com/v/qnBRCQJppHohl=en_USfs=1/paramparam name=allowFullScreen value=true/paramparam name=allowscriptaccess value=always/paramembed src=http://www.youtube.com/v/qnBRCQJppHohl=en_USfs=1 type=application/x-shockwave-flash allowscriptaccess=always allowfullscreen=true width=480 height=385/embed/objectbrbrSpecial Gift: Get over 6 hours of audio program from best-selling authors, world-class trainers and success gurus for free by clicking this link –gt; a href=http://successtrace.com/?aff_id=2066?camp_id=309 target=’_blank’Success Training/a.

Pause for a moment. What were the thoughts running through your head a minute ago? How did that thought make you feel?brbrIt is very important that we realize the relationship between our thoughts and the way we feel. Did you know that we are constantly thinking? Take breathing for example. Unless we feel that we are running out of breath, we simply forget that we breathe automatically.brbrThinking works the same way. Since we are always doing it, it is easy to forget that it is happening. To think is to create. Everything starts in the mind. What happens first before the feeling of anger sets in? Angry thoughts precede anger. Have you tried getting angry when you don’t have any anger thoughts? Try to feel sad without sad thoughts. It is just not possible! In order to experience a feeling, we must first have the thought that induces that feeling. Happiness cannot exist alone. It is the result of positive thinking. This simple awareness is the first step in putting us back on the path to a href=http://www.findthewaytohappiness.com target=’_blank’find happiness/a.brbrWe should never underestimate the power of a simple thought. It may seem so innocent and fleeting; yet, it has energy that can cause great impact on our mind, body, and emotions.brbrLet us think of a lemon. Imagine cutting it in half and smelling it. Now, think about squeezing the juice from the lemon into your mouth and feel those bits of pulp bursting inside. Most of us will surely feel our salivary glands responding to the thought of lemon.brbrIndeed, what we are thinking can greatly influence our emotions. Think of someone you love. What do you feel? Now think of someone you hate. What do you feel? We don’t have to change our emotions consciously ndash; just change our thoughts and our emotions will immediately follow. Notice that when we focus our minds on positive things, we feel better, whereas when think negative thoughts, we feel bad. Positive thoughts yield positive results. These thoughts make us more loving and caring, resulting to good health, wealth, and happiness. On the other hand, negative thoughts produce negative results. These types of thoughts result to indifference, disease, fear and misery, etc. In other words, our thoughts create our reality. So be aware of what you’re thinking. The next time you feel a little low, stop and consider what you were thinking to trigger that feeling and make the necessary change. Itrsquo;s not going to happen immediately but with practice, we can control the direction our thoughts take.brbrWouldnrsquo;t it be great if we can have good thoughts throughout the day?brbrHowever, that is just not possible, is it? The negative thoughts have a way of slipping in unnoticed throughout the day. Negative thinking can kill just like a cancer! It can destroy and kill our whole future. Negative thoughts affect the mind, body, and emotions.brbrOur thoughts produce our feelings. We get angry by having angry thoughts. It is impossible to feel sad without sad thoughts. Unhappiness does not and cannot exist on its own. Unhappiness is a feeling that comes with negative thinking. So how do we get rid of the negative thoughts in our heads? Stop thinking about them! Our negative feelings are results of our own negative thinking. Apart from refraining to think about negative thoughts, we can turn negative thoughts into positive ones.br brOne effective technique is to learn a whole new set of happy words. These words evoke positive feelings. Other studies refer to these as ldquo;Positive Adjectives Listrdquo; from The Apache Method (The Antidotal Positive Adjectives Character and Happiness Enhancement Method).brbrAccording to this particular study, which is based on Emmet Velton’s classic paper, ldquo;There has been a body of research empirically validating our ability to positively or negatively change our moods by reading phrases like ldquo;I feel very goodrdquo; or ldquo;I am afraid.rdquo;brbrSo, how do we go about dislodging thoughts of unhappiness? brbr1. Be aware. We have to catch ourselves when we are about to indulge in negative thinking. In the first few days, we have to be very vigilant. brbr2. The moment we feel the onset of an unpleasant emotion, we have to identify it as precisely as possible. Is it hatred? Hurt? Fear? Anxiety? Discontent? This is a very critical component of the process as related to the next step.brbr3. Search for the exact opposite of the negative emotion. Think of its antonym. For example, the moment we catch ourselves feeling ldquo;lazy,rdquo; we would call to mind an opposite adjective like ‘energetic.’ We would then say to ourselves, ‘I feel energetic. ‘ If we see ourselves as ldquo;pessimisticrdquo;, we say ldquo;I am hopeful. rdquo; If we think we are ldquo;incompetentrsquo;, we say ldquo;I feel ingenious.rdquo; What do we say if we see ourselves as ldquo;unmindfulrdquo;? We say, ldquo;I am grateful. rdquo; Can we use the same method even if we do not feel any unpleasant feelings? Of course! We are encouraged to think and say to ourselves statements like ‘I feel fabulous’ to reinforce our mood, or statements like ‘I feel strong’ or ‘I feel friendly’ in order to enhance our character. Other people have their own versions of the said technique. Others say it aloud in front of the mirror every morning for ten minutes for twenty-one days. Saying it out loud makes it more effective as there is an emotional involvement. This is the same as saying positive affirmations and doing self-talk. Others prefer to write the statements on paper, as they become more ldquo;physicallyrdquo; involved. brbrTry it out. It doesnrsquo;t matter which way you choose to use. Whatrsquo;s important is that you are aware of the direction your thoughts are going and change it. Yoursquo;ll see a brighter, more positive you emerge and well on your way to finding the a href=http://www.findthewaytohappiness.com target=’_blank’way to happiness/a.brbrobject width=425 height=344param name=movie value=http://www.youtube.com/v/hcyHkZ_Xj58hl=en_USfs=1/paramparam name=allowFullScreen value=true/paramparam name=allowscriptaccess value=always/paramembed src=http://www.youtube.com/v/hcyHkZ_Xj58hl=en_USfs=1 type=application/x-shockwave-flash allowscriptaccess=always allowfullscreen=true width=425 height=344/embed/objectbrbrSpecial Gift: Get over 6 hours of audio program from best-selling authors, world-class trainers and